ConfidentNites Guide 


ConfidentNights Guide

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Question 1 – What age is your little one?

Question 2 - Is your little one a Boy or a Girl?

Question 3 - Is your little one potty trained?

Question 4 - Do you remember if you wet the bed as a child?

Question 5 – How often does your child wet the bed?

Question 6 – Has your child recently regressed into bedwetting or have they always wet the bed?

Thank you for answering the questions, please see your answers below.

Be reassured that you are still in the potty training phase. About 1 in 3 children in this age group are not yet dry at night, although many are by now dry during the day. The website has some useful tips.

About 1 in 5 children in your child’s age group are not yet dry at night – so do not be discouraged - there will be many in your child’s school class in the same position. DryNites can be a source of comfort and support for you and your child.

About 1 in 9 children between the ages of 8-10 years are not yet dry at night – so, be reassured, there will be a number of children in the same situation in your child’s school class.

Between the ages of 5-10 years bedwetting is almost twice as common in boys than girls. It is not really known why this is – but may be due to boys being a bit slower to develop in this body area.

More boys than girls wet the bed in the 5-10 age group (we don’t know why this is but it may be that girls develop more quickly in this body area). But it is still a common problem in both girls and boys.

Most (but not all!) children become potty trained in the day first - then night-time dryness comes next. DryNites can be a support to help your child through this stage – but do check whether your child wishes to try for a few nights without the DryNites, perhaps using the DryNites Bed Mats as a “stepping stone” to dry beds.

If your child can stay dry for at least two hours between wet nappies, has regular bowel movements, has some awareness of their wees and poos, then he or she has some of the signs of toilet training “readiness”. Choose a time when there are fewer distractions around you – and do discuss this with your health visitor. The website or have some useful tips.

There is some evidence that if both parents were late in becoming dry, their children have a 77% chance of bedwetting, reducing to a 43% chance for one parent. But all children who wet the bed have the same problem – they are not yet “listening” and reacting to their bladders at night.

All children who wet the bed are not yet “listening” to their bladders and to the sensation of fullness – by “holding-on” and by waking up to use the toilet. This is the case whether there is a hereditary link or not.

Some children do wet the bed every night and a dry night is an indication that they are beginning to “hold-on” throughout the night – or to wake up to the sensation of a full bladder. DryNites are a good support here – and will make life a bit easier, but do make sure that your child is not constipated – as this can cause bedwetting.

Once a Week It is quite common for bedwetting to happen only once a week or so – and often there is no obvious reason for this. DryNites are a source of support for you and your child during this phase and you may find the suggestions in the DryNites website helpful.

Less than once a week It might be worth working out if there are any “triggers” to a bedwetting episode, such as a late night or a particular worry (although there may be none). Your child might feel more confident with DryNites – or perhaps the DryNites BedMats as a “stepping stone” to becoming dry.

A few children (over the age of 5 years) begin to wet the bed again after at least 6 months of being dry. This is called secondary bedwetting and is usually linked to a stressful event or worry. It does eventually sort itself out once the worry has been resolved. But if not do consider seeking help from your family doctor.

Some children do take longer than others to become dry at night and DryNites can be a source of comfort and support. Many children have reached the stage of wanting to tackle the problem and – as described in the DryNites website- there are treatment approaches for those over the age of 5 years.

If you haven’t done so already, you may want to speak to your doctor. All children over the age of 5 years should be able to have an assessment of their bedwetting on the NHS and be given advice and guidance on the best treatment approach for your situation. This is usually carried out by nurses at a local continence clinic – but do ask your family doctor for a referral.